{"id":205,"date":"2014-01-13T15:44:00","date_gmt":"2014-01-13T21:44:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.vickiscloud.com\/9\/?p=205"},"modified":"2014-01-13T15:44:00","modified_gmt":"2014-01-13T21:44:00","slug":"downsides-to-being-an-introvert","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.vickiscloud.com\/9\/downsides-to-being-an-introvert\/","title":{"rendered":"Downsides to Being an Introvert"},"content":{"rendered":"

This post originally appeared at Thought Catalog<\/a> and I lifted it from AlterNet<\/a><\/p>\n

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The pros to this temperament are many: we\u2019re great listeners. We give good advice. We\u2019re reflective and observant. We offend few. We usually have fantastic writing skills, and possess a quiet focus. We\u2019re productive.<\/p>\n

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There are things though, that this popular introvert public dialectic doesn\u2019t tell you:<\/p>\n

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1. We get so wrapped up in ourselves, and more specifically our <\/b>inner selves, that we eschew traditional social customs.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Like for instance, we\u2019ll sit in silence in the middle of a group discussion and let everyone else talk. Or we\u2019ll forget that the polite thing to do is to active listen: \u201cso you\u2019re saying that\u2026\u201d \u201cSo if I understand you correctly\u2026\u201d Or we\u2019ll forget to do the \u201cUh-huh, I totally know what you mean\u201d interjections. How could we? Ruuuude.<\/p>\n

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2. We may appear rude, snobby or uptight to acquaintances.<\/b><\/p>\n

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If we sit too long in silence, we\u2019ll get the \u201cAre you upset? Are you okay? What\u2019s wrong with you?\u201d Really, we were just listening. I promise. It\u2019s going to be okay.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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3. We sometimes have verbal communication issues. <\/b>But give us a pen and paper and we\u2019ll gladly write you a novel.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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We may stutter when we get nervous, or when there\u2019s conflict. We may have a hard time articulating [outloud]<\/strong> what\u2019s in our hearts and minds. We may fear public speaking. But can we email like a pro? Heck yes. Write our significant others romantic letters articulating our feelings perfectly? Double heck to the yes. Writing emails and letters comes in handy, right?<\/p>\n

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4. We hate networking.<\/b><\/p>\n

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Like literally, we\u2019ll refuse to show up to networking events.\u00a0We have no patience for sucking up or small talk.<\/strong> Which, by the way, we suck at.<\/p>\n

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5. We have fewer friends.<\/b><\/p>\n

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While we may have deeper friendships<\/strong> than our extroverted peers, in a world of facebook friends and twitter followers, it\u2019s easy to compare our lives to others in terms of quantity over quality. And stalk extroverted people on facebook.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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